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Boundaries, Change and Healing...insights from the Healer's Perspective Quietly Wondering (a new song) Dear
Friends, 1.
It's a spiritual pop quiz - are you really
committed to changing?
In order to help release the energetic cords of connection between yourself and others I use the Four Questions for Healing that I have developed. Begin with the first question; ask yourself if all that you are feeling or noticing (emotions, thoughts, physical sensations) are really yours. This is a simple method to separate out the emotions, thoughts and even physical body issues that are truly yours, and those same issues that pertain to others. When you change, others may not feel safe Whatever shifts you are making are (ideally) offered out to all others as possibilities. The new choices you make are like little gift-wrapped treasures left on their front porch. When their soul decides to open the gift is not up to anyone but them. When there is a conscious or unconscious belief that your family or friends ought to change along with you it is like shoving the gift into their arms, whether they want it or not. Imagine how it feels to have anything, even a treasured gift, forced upon you! For this reason your change may even be perceived by others as being dangerous to them. Recognizing when you want someone else to change is a key to pursuing your own healing journey. The energy cords that run between us will always update others about the changes you are making. How much someone listens to that information is not up to you. You can send an email, but the other person has to choose to read it and take the time to understand its content. This is one reason that profound change is so difficult. The mythology of the Hero's Journey illustrates this concept of change and interconnectedness. The protagonist must leave the village and undergo a quest in a far off land. Only after the completion of the quest does the protagonist return to the village as the Hero. Change happens while separated from the village community. And that change can be met with acceptance or fear by those in the village.
Body-to-Body and Soul-to-Soul Cords The spiritual connections we have with each other, soul-to-soul, are perfect. While incarnated, we have energetic cords available to us that reflect our soul-to-soul connections, as well as the energetic cords we share body-to-body with those in this lifetime. The body-to-body cords reflect our personalities and the issues our soul have decided to address in this lifetime. The experiences and resulting choices that you make travel along these energetic body-to-body cords and let others know when you are changing. The cords carry an informational pulse that lets people in your life know what you are doing. (Yes, like a Facebook status update!) Each person can listen to the information, or choose to ignore it. When someone listens to the information about a shift you have made they may or may not choose to act on it. For this reason none of us can heal or change another person. Only their soul can do that. The changes you make are always offered to others as informational possibilities, nothing more. Receiving Change more easily in Our Life When we are grounded into our own body we tend to be able to receive the information that travels along the body-to-body cords from others with ease. We can feel the quality of vibration that is our physical body and the quality of knowing that reflects messages from our own soul. Therefore, we know what is ours to do and what is not ours to do. We can let other people explore and have new relationships to the world, and then bring those new ideas to us. New ideas are not threatening, they are a curiosity to be explored. When any of us is ungrounded we tend to be fearful, and maintain a high degree of control over our life experience. We don't feel safe and spend much of our attention and life-force in organization and control modes. We define our world by all that is perceived as external to ourselves, i.e. other people. Because we define ourselves by how we believe others see us, we rely on others to define our world. When someone in our world begins to change, our world is threatened. Separating Yourself Energetically from Others This is especially true of people in our lives who are narcissists or those who tend to control others. When clients are dealing with such people the body-to-body energy cords can be very active, and attempts at change, or even thinking about change, can bring up much discomfort. Client's report that it feels like the other person is 'reading your mind' and preventing you from moving forward. I have developed a trick to utilize in this situation. This will prevent others from psychically seeing the changes that you are making, and encourages you to not wander over into their energies as well. Remember, if someone's energy is in your space then your energy is also in their space. Since you can't change them, start with what you can change: yourself! To begin, sense the body-to-body energy cords that exist between yourself and the other person. You don't need to be super psychic to do this. Allow yourself to sense any area of discomfort, heaviness or even loopy thoughts you are experiencing. These are all symptoms of the body-to-body cords being active between yourself and another person. As you feel whatever you are feeling, allow yourself to also open into your own heart, and your own compassion. How much pain is the other person trying valiantly to protect themselves from experiencing? When any of us puts effort into protecting ourselves, it is likely because whatever we might otherwise experience is very scary and painful. Compassion for another allows you to find the soul-to-soul cords that exist between yourself and another person, whether they are incarnate in physical form or have passed into spirit.. From this quiet heart space imagine encouraging the other person to remain exactly where they are. Imagine telling them that they have enough strength to follow the journey of their own soul. This is a healing that you can offer, but not impose. You might even imagine that this encouragement is wrapped up in a gift box and placed near them. Do not force them to open it in your imagination. Simply leave it for them to discover, when the time if right. Now allow that other person to create an image of you out of their own energy. Sort of like a scarecrow or replica version of you. The replica that you see may not at all look like you. Allow that version of you to reflect how the other person may see you. Remember, we can only see in others what we can see already in ourselves. And we tend to see in others that which we are most needing to love and/or change in ourselves. Many clients find that the scarecrow version of themselves looks very little like how they see themselves! And there are often insights about wounds that you and the other person are working on together, at a soul level. As you allow your imagination to translate spiritual information during this process you are apt to psychically sense what someone else is projecting onto you. And, you might spend a moment or two asking what you are projecting onto them that isn't really what their soul and body are like in this lifetime. There are many levels to this process, and each time you do it new insights will arise. Ultimately, encouraging another person to build an energetic scarecrow replica of you lets them interact with the replica instead of your personal energies. It is not something that needs to be done for everyone in your life. It is a tool that is available when necessary. You changed, they don't have to change In order to maintain boundaries with others we must begin within ourselves. My mentor-teacher John Friedlander used to tell students to 'send a psychic change of address card' to people in our life after a workshop. I believe that this was his way of indicating that we had undergone a change, but no one else needed to move. That is why at the end of a healing session I say you have permission to change, and no one else needs to change. You can keep shifting and changing, and all those with whom you share your life can feel safe in their own worlds, feeling only the change that their souls are ready to receive. You changed, they don't have to change. My blessings of change and transmutation to each of you, -Norma Yes, please share these newsletters with your friends, your email circle and social media. I am on Facebook - come 'like' my page!
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